He gives us stories /// not alone

Newly single

As a newly single Mum, I’m finding my new normal to be really difficult to navigate. My days are long and hard and often very lonely as I strive to parent alone. I really, really don’t have it all together.

At the start, I remember feeling empowered to be everything for my girls—to meet all their physical needs, give them the emotional support they needed, creatively teach them the gospel, make nutritious meals 3 times a day, fill their lives with culture through art and music—you know—be supermum in every way. Reality very quickly set in and if I’m being honest, most of the time I feel like I’m not doing much of anything very well. My resolve fizzled in the face of the enormity of the job I have. I am tired and I have run out of steam.

I’m so thankful that Jesus has stepped into my mess and reminded me that He is God Incarnate, here with me. In the trenches. On the messy days when I’m not keeping up. When the holes in our life feel utterly overwhelming. The advent (coming) of Jesus reminds me that He is a God who steps into darkness, mess and chaos. He brings light, hope, rescue. Grace upon grace has been poured out on me [John 1]. Over and over He’s reminded me that I don’t have to have it all together. He is big enough to hold us all together. Me. My daughters. Our life.


My Wonderful Counsellor has reminded me that I am not alone:

For your Maker is your husband—
The Lord Almighty is His name—
The Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer...
The Lord has called you
Like a wife deserted and wounded in spirit...
— Isaiah 54:5–6

perfect husband and father

I have a Husband who loves and cares for me perfectly. My children are being parented by their perfect Heavenly Father who loves them far better than I ever could. He has even promised to teach and guide them.

All your children shall be taught by the Lord, and great shall be the peace of your children.
Isaiah 54:13

He has provided extravagant healing and has met our physical needs. He is everything and He has been enough. Jesus is Emmanuel God WITH me. He fills in every gap. In my weakness, He is strong. My weakness is very great, so this is very good news for me today. My weariness and inability to be everything to everyone leaves room for His faithfulness to take over.

Hallelujah, what a Saviour!


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He gives us stories ///

Throughout Advent, Refuge is posting a selection of stories of God’s work in our lives. Each morning of Advent, we will be sharing these stories for the encouragement and upbuilding of the Church—and to testify to His greatness. For the series introduction click here.

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