Let's Talk About Sex...


We had another lovely ladies coffee morning as we enjoyed the beautiful warm and sunny weather and talked about sex. As always our time began with coffee, cakes and one of our ladies even made pancakes for us this morning!

We spent time worshipping our amazing Jesus. And then we heard a talk about what the Bible says was God's original design and purpose for sex:

  • for intimacy

  • for pleasure

  • and to have a family.

We then learned that when we experience sexual things outside of God's design it creates brokenness with God—with ourselves and with others. Ultimately we learned in the end how Jesus responds to sexual sin for those who have put their faith in Him: He gives grace, He doesn't condemn, He sets us free and He washes, cleanses and redeems us [see teaching below]. What an amazing God we serve!

Five ladies shared a short testimony on what God has taught them and done in their lives in this area of sex and it was incredibly powerful and encouraging to hear so vulnerably from others. We then took a wee bit of time to answer some questions that had come in through an anonymous survey and then we finished our time in worship.

Jesus paid it all,
all to Him I owe.
My sin had left a crimson stain,
He washed it white as snow.
— Elvina M. Hall


God gives grace

In John 8:1–11 we get to see how Jesus responds to sexual sin first hand when the religious leaders of that day bring to Jesus a woman caught in the act of adultery, and they ask Him to judge her. Jesus, who is God in the flesh—who is the exact representation of God’s nature and character—brought grace and truth. He doesn’t condemn her, He shows her amazing grace and tells her to go and sin no more. And this grace is offered to all of us who have sinned sexually. He gives us undeserved favour instead of what our sins deserve.


God does not condemn those who are in Christ

For God so loved the world in this way: He gave His One and Only Son, so that everyone who believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send His Son into the world that He might condemn the world, but that the world might be saved through Him. Anyone who believes in Him is not condemned
— John 3:16–18


God didn’t send His Son into the world to come and say, “you’re guilty”—He sent His Son into the world to save it. Those who have given their lives to Jesus are not condemned because Jesus has saved us from the doom of punishment from our sins. This means we don’t have to carry guilt or shame over any past sexual sin that has been forgiven by God because Jesus has taken that guilt and shame from us.


Jesus sets people free

I assure you: Everyone who commits sin is a slave of sin. A slave does not remain in the household forever, but a son does remain forever. Therefore, if the Son sets you free, you really will be free.
— John 8:34-36

Also in Luke 4:16–21, when Jesus quotes Isaiah 61, He says that He came to preach the gospel and to set the captives free. If you are walking in enslavement to any sexual sin (whether in thought or action) Jesus has good news for you—one of the reasons He came was to set the captives free!


Jesus washes, cleanses and redeems

Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor homosexuals nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.
— 1 Corinthians 6:9–11

Jesus takes our sin and puts it on Himself, that we might be presented holy and blameless before God, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish; He crowns us with beauty instead of ashes. God changes our identity on the inside, instead of being someone who is dirty, through the blood of Jesus, He makes us someone who is clean. Instead of shame and disgrace, He clothes us in His righteousness, in beautiful white clothes. This is what Jesus has accomplished for us on the cross.